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Top 5 differences: Independent Dommes versus ones working in a Dungeon

 

Both new and experienced subs at some point ask themselves: should I meet with an Independent Dominatrix or one that works at a Dungeon? There are pros and cons to both. Making that decision depends on your situation, interests, security concerns, and of course personal preference. Both are viable: both have people who are experienced, ethical, and beautiful. And both have people who will mishandle your information and treat you badly.

1. Experience: As a general rule Dommes working at Dungeons tend to be less experienced (except for the owner/manager). Don’t get me wrong, it’s not a negative. The best Mistresses I know started working at a Dungeon. This is where they learn from more experienced Dommes, where they learn safety, rules, and expand their horizons. There are exceptions, but let’s talk about natural progression: Dommes often graduate from working for someone and either go Independent or start their own Dungeons.

Just because Independent Dommes tend to be more experienced doesn’t mean there isn’t a whole class of them that have zero to minimal experience. And these are the Escorts that simply added an angle of BDSM to their repertoire. We are not here to judge, actually I know some Dommes that started as escorts or dancers and made a spectacular transition, my point is simply for the reader to be mindful of these differences.

2. Equipment: professional Dungeons tend to have more toys, furniture and equipment. Independents don’t have the scale and sheer volume of clients to support the space and toys. Many Independent Mistresses have access to large Dungeons, you just have to ask.

3. Tribute: An Independent Dominatrix is a business owner and has to handle everything that comes with it: advertising, screening, website maintenance, scheduling. Dungeon Dommes have the luxury of just showing up and leaving at the end of the shift. The pay reflects the responsibilities. Dungeons usually split tributes 50/50. It’s a fair trade for taking away the headaches and supplying space, equipment, and customers.

4. Nudity/Sexual Acts: Dungeons advertise heavily therefore their locations and nature of business is known not only to clients but law enforcement. They have to be more careful or they get busted. Very often commercial Dungeons have a policy of absolutely no sexual acts, going as far as ‘panties stay on’. Granted I’m writing this from a point of an Independent professional Dominatrix in Orange County. Knowing the legal landscape in Southern California, my policy is for zero sexual context but I know that most Independents are more lax with their rules. Overall a sub will get to sexual activities faster with an Independent than with a Dungeon Domme.

Now I want you to think about the following: sexual acts in exchange for compensation are illegal, this includes any kind of penetration. Legal ramifications for being caught are enormous financially, judicially and personally. If you contact a Dominatrix asking for a sexual act and she agrees, you think great for me: you cum during a session and move on with your life. Except the record of you asking and her agreeing remains, even if you don’t get caught chances are she eventually will. So by finding a Dominatrix that agreed to your sexual request, you just subjected yourself to a tremendous liability.

5. Personal Information. Let’s follow the liability string. Now that I got you thinking let’s look at how your personal information is handled. Both groups need to screen but how do both groups handle your personal info? Who is more likely to get into big trouble: an agency booking many appointments for many Dommes, or an Independent Dominatrix who is only booking for herself? Which is more likely to draw unwanted attention? If an Independent Mistress gets into trouble, well that’s a pain in the ass but it’s a small problem for her and pretty much no problem for you, plus it rarely makes headlines. If a Dungeon gets into trouble it can be and has been national news! People who have been patrons of such places have seen their names official documents and in national and local newspapers. It’s splashy, sexy news and will always get ratings.

Yes, I’m a Dominatrix and I love scaring subs shitless, but I also want you to decide for yourself what you might want to see and take everything into account about how each operation works. Nothing is fool proof, but when you consider each business model on its merit you can make an informed decision about what is best.

Femdom Porn for the Beginner

You’ve been glued to the screen after typing Femdom Porn. Many jerkoff sessions later you decide that life is passing you by and you should try the adventure for yourself by visiting a live Dominatrix.

Femdom porn isn’t inherently bad, as it turns the gender roles upside down. However it is poisoning the true identity of Femdom. Let me explain: in Femdom reality, the Dominatrix gains strength by using the greatest weakness within the male, horniness and genetically encoded craving to get laid. The more desperate the male is, the more strength the Dominatrix gains by exploiting the urges.
When Femdom is portrayed in porn, even though the roles are reversed, for some reason the male is given satisfaction. A handjob, fucking and sometimes (oh horror) a blowjob.

This begs the question, is it true Femdom if the male gets what he wants?

It becomes more of a Femdom interpretation through the view of pornography. In reality a male slave, can be left without the right to orgasm for a very long time.

As in all pornography, Femdom/BDSM porn is made for male consumption and is based on fantasy. Reality might hit newbies hard. When they come to a professional Dominatrix expecting a happy ending, boy do they get a surprise. Their extreme desire is brought out to the surface and allowed to dangle for the pure enjoyment of the Dominatrix.

If you are an aspiring submissive, you should understand a simple truth: a true Dominatrix will take your power (which is usually between your legs) she will not give it back in the form of your satisfaction.

Sometimes I come across realistic Femdom porn, without any fucking or orgasm scene. This reflects the reality: It’s hard, it’s brutal, it’s intense. At the end you are left wanting more…. welcome to the real world.

Dominatrix and Confidence

Increase Your Confidence in vanilla world

There’s a really good reason you should consider submitting to Mistress Vlada if you are in Orange County or Los Angeles: Mistress Vlada is great for your confidence. Think about how difficult it is to focus on submitting fully when you are in the company of a female that doesn’t know exactly what she wants. Most men find it very, very hard to concentrate when it comes to guessing what your partner wants. Learning from Mistress Vlada you will start intuitively learning what women want, she will teach and make sure you learn how to please a woman.    This will automatically give you confidence you need to deal with the real world, Dominatrix Vlada has seen it time after time.

No matter how scary or unusual something is at first, the more you do it, the better you become at it. Once you start understanding what confident women want, you will start to naturally attract them. Book a session with Mistress Vlada today! Take the shortcut to becoming exactly the kind of man that would attract a strong and adventurous woman. Mistress Vlada forces you to help yourself.

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Professional Domination Session will make your real life marriage or partnership  better.  Let’s face it living in a full time DS relationship is very difficult in practice.  Most people practice BDSM only from time to time, when the circumstances permit.  BDSM is our escape, our way to let go but eventually we have to get back to the real world.  Statistically it’s rare to find a partner that is on the same page as you in your kinks, more often than not they will have different fetishes or not at all.  If the play is not natural to your partner eventually it will become taxing and quickly they will become disinterested, even resentful.  Same as you would hate to have someone put their baggage on you, your partner will resent your kinks being placed on their shoulders.  In their mind – this is your baggage.  All of this can be solved with occasionally indulging in your kinks with a professional Dominatrix.  Imagine how much headache these trips will solve for you, your partner and your life in general.

Even finding someone on kinky social websites,there are too many downsides to meeting someone randomly.  There are no guarantees when you meet an amateur through a social site. You don’t know what you’re getting, you don’t really know how they will behave, and there’s really no guarantee that you aren’t being laughed at from the get go. You’ve probably heard about people who meet through one of the fetish sites where the relationship blows up in very unexpected ways, the worst of all is you get exposed. Is that really how you want to conduct your private life… to say nothing of the risky personal behavior in which people on kink hook up sites are likely to engage? It just isn’t a good trade-off when you consider that the alternative, booking the time of a beautiful and professional Orange County Dominatrix.

A session with Dominatrix Vlada solves a lot of problems.   It is the submission to a beautiful dominant woman without all the hassle and pitfalls associated with traditional dating. Not only is it much, much more convenient to see a Professional Dominatrix because you discuss specifically what you have been dreaming of, but when the session is over – you are safe and can return to your normal life. There’s no mess, there’s no fuss, and you don’t have to worry about your secrets coming to light! It’s just that easy. Mistress Vlada takes control and leads you to indulge in your fetish. She gives you the ability to truly enjoy yourself again, while making this adventure a very safe one.

Mistress Vlada offers you safety, unmatched satisfaction, and high quality experience, weather it is spanking, tie and tease session, sissification, electric play, hypnosis, pet or slave training and much much more. Instead of settling for whatever you can find or attract, instead of going through the painful amateur game process, you can contact Dominatrix Vlada through this website and book a session of your lifetime.

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Professional Dominatrix versus an Amateur BDSM practitioner

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Professional Dominatrix Absolutely Beats Amateur Experience

Are you still wondering if you can hit send and ask for a session?  You aren’t used to providing tributes, here’s a secret: a Professional Dominatrix is always safer and better than experimenting with an untrained partner.  What it comes down to is: you have one body and when you give up control and entrust it to someone else they better know what they are doing.    One wrong move can cost you dearly in terms of embarrassment or health.  Technique is present in absolutely everything Mistress Vlada does.  From how tight the rope is and for how long it should stay on;  to where and how to flog or cane; how to warm up the skin so you can take more than you could ever imagine; and how far humiliation can be taken.  The mind is a very weak tool and it can be easily influenced by someone with experience, this ability comes with responsibility and when you go into a deep hypnofantasy session you have to safely come out.  Mistress Vlada will take you to the highest peaks and safely brings you down.

Looking for an amateur BDSM partner on one of the social sites often does not produce safer results.  It takes time, effort, and in the end it’s not guaranteed that she will indulge in the same fantasy as you.   Fetish social sites take precious time that none of us have, the value of your time far supersedes the amount you would spend on a session.

I will have to admit that there is a portion of Pro Domes out there, that are simply escorts and decided to add aspects of BDSM to their repertoire, let’s put these aside for a moment and concentrate on true FemDom.  These are the individuals that started out as amateurs and transitioned into professional field.   These Professional Mistresses bring years of experience and passion for the trade with them.  Everyone makes mistakes, but these mistakes were already made and will not be repeated on you.  Mistakes and mishaps can be from mild and inconvenient to very costly.  Guess who will take the full burden of FemDom mistake?  Of course it will be the submissive, these mishaps can be avoided by sessioning with a professional Dominatrix.   These mistakes can be marks on your body that shouldn’t be seen by family or at the gym, or worse more permanent damage.  A sincere advice is to circumvent this disaster and book a Pro Dominatrix session.  As you have seen on this website Mistress Vlada brings many years of experience and yes mistakes have been made, but they were made on someone else.  You will be safe to indulge in your fantasy to the fullest.

Seeing a Professional Dominatrix

Every sub and fetishist has a horror story to tell when it comes to the baggage and stigma of their particular fetish.  Kink is not accepted by the society, let’s be honest:  your dark desires are just a factory for drama.  If you divulge your kink to a vanilla person you will be judged one way or another, and you just signed yourself up for worries and problems. Either you are with a vanilla or an amateur you are walking on glass, lots of things go wrong from psychoses to blackmail.   None of us should have to deal with anything like this.

Professional Dominatrix Vlada, by contrast, is here for you in Orange County or Los Angeles. She’s here to allow you to loose yourself. She brings none of the drama or baggage to the table. And when the session is complete, you are left satisfied and fulfilled knowing that your dreams are coming true. This is the beauty of a session with Professional Dominatrix.   Mistress Vlada is far superior to an amateur. You owe it to yourself to secure the services of a professional. Don’t wait, and don’t forego your fantasies for another minute. Achieve the enjoyment you have always wanted and that you didn’t think was possible. That is the experience and the value that Mistress Vlada always adds.

Femdom Birthday Celebration

FemDom Birthday Celebration

Birthdays are special days and ought to be celebrated as such.  Each year is different and thus should be remembered by a beautifully and intricately placed strike.  Each year should be marked by a different implement: just as in real life some years are a bit duller, some feel stingy.  In the beginning of the celebration you get more guidance: breathing deeply, bringing blood closer to the surface.  Remember, how much guidance you received when you were growing up?  Build up and growth are both slow, only gradually does the pain increase.  The years get tougher as you grow up, so does each stroke of the birthday beating.  Implements get harsher, some will break skin, others will make you scream.  Birthday boy will go through several mindsets during the birthday session.  Fear at first, fighting the pain, hating it….. suffering, screaming, pleading, begging.  Then something snaps, and you endure – you take everything that comes.  Time slows, you slip into a space that is airless and liquid.  You hear the whip fall, but don’t feel that pain associated with it.  Floating, disconnected from the body, watching from above.  Minutes pass, maybe hours – who knows…. Enjoy your gift.

Mistress slows down, sting of the whip turns into caress.  Your Mistress’s embrace feels hot. Your own body isn’t your own.  Only the feeling is left, the feeling of the embrace, feeling of another body.  Touching cell to cell, soul to soul – Happy Birthday my boy.